Sunday, November 7, 2010
I had the Abhyang Snan (untranslatable in English..it loses its Essence when I do that. Amazing how language does that. eg.Try translating "Hum kaffan mein bhi aapka intezaar karte rahein." It would be something like "I kept waiting for you in my grave.")
Anyway, for people who don't know, it involves applying oil on your body and taking a hot bath with a fragrant powder called Utni..After this there is a ritual where you crush a cucumber-like vegetable called Karta under your feet while the ladies in your house take your Aarti.
This was followed by a breakfast of Poha and Diwali farsan-sev, chivda, laddoo.I met my neighbours,wished them and touched their feet, seeking blessings.Sweets were distributed amongst neighbors. (I ended up with about 6 kilos of sweets.) Some were dressed in new clothes..
In the evening we had Laxmi Pujan and a huge Rangoli was made on the landing of our floor.
Now, you have probably realized that I am one sentence away from making this the quintessential Std. 5 essay on "Diwali".(That sentence being "Diwali is my Favorite Festival!")
What I want to focus on though, is an incident which occurred at around 11 that day.I happened to have some work and had to go out. I caught a bus and another proof of it being Diwali met my eyes.Everyone was dressed in new clothes (the shiny,silky,reserved-for-festivals-and-weddings kind)..probably visiting their relatives.
Amongst all these people the only people who didn't have a holiday and were working even on a festival day were the Bus Driver and Conductor.Working even while everyone around you is enjoying a holiday is quite a frustrating thing to do..and nice on your part too.
Some sudden inspiration (probably the thought of them having to work while their families being at home.And having seen a school girl thanking the driver some weeks back when on my way to college) made me want to thank them and wish them a "Happy Diwali" while getting down.However I pondered over this throughout my journey.."What if he thinks I am being cheeky?".."And what if he gets angry,wouldn't I just spoil things more for him then?"..
So, while getting down I had those moments,where you hesitate to take a step, turn around and seem like you are going to say something...but dont..you step forward and then again you turn around and say it all too fast.
I didn't even wait to see if he had heard or not..I just got down hurriedly,feeling embarrassed..walked two paces at a time,taking out my cell-phone and calling some imaginary friend of mine acting as if my life depended on it..(I know we all have those moments.Facebook has around 2000 likes for the same.)
I come to the point now-"Are we in an era where politeness and basic goodwill is embarrassing?"
Why did I feel so embarrassed after doing that?
Why don't people generally thank the bus drivers, rickshaw pullers and taxi drivers?
Why do college students only rarely wish their professors?
Why does just smiling at a familiar person become such a bother?
We are just too ashamed to do that. Funny..since we have learnt about being polite right at Kindergarten level. Explains why the school girl I mentioned earlier bothered to thank the driver while the rest of the passengers (including me sadly..) didn't bother to.Why,do students suddenly lose this sense after entering college?
And even double-standards follow.The very same people will thank almost everyone at a McDonald's outlet..or at a mall or when at the Airport..Why?Do we suddenly get this sense again when at such places?
One might argue that at such places..people are bound to understand and appreciate what you are doing and why you are doing it..while at local places people might not care..
And thats the whole point..the OVERALL attitude is like that..That's why no one seems to care at these places and that's why we feel embarrassed all the more..and that's why we don't do it..and again that's why people aren't used to it..and maybe that's why thy don't care.
I just happened to notice this on the day of Diwali-the day when we spread goodwill and peace and brotherhood..And it makes sense,doesn't it? I realized where I am going wrong on the very day meant to symbolize it.. :)
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
"Republic Day is the day our Constitution was formed.Do you know what our Constitution says kids?Read the first page of your Civics Textbook,it bears the Preamble of our Constitution.Tomorrow we have the flag-hoisting ceremony in School."
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Thursday, January 7, 2010
Saturday, November 14, 2009
I havent written from a long time I know..But call it dealing with engineering woes if you want....Submissions,assignments,practicals,midterms...whatever!
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Monday, October 12, 2009
So..here I am typing away.Sitting online,having nothing else to do (I have got first year engineering studies to do yes...but that's different).It wasn't what I had imagined myself to be doing about three hours back.It all started a week back..
"I want to go to
"Sure,I am in,"
"And then maybe we could check out the booksellers near Metro at Dhobitalao."
This is what transpired between me and Nikhil a week back.
I had wanted to go alone..spend some time with myself..but then I thought,
“Why not call Nikhil, he’s interested in such places too and it had been quite some time since we met.”
The fact that we had met just five days back for I-Rock was conveniently overlooked by me..People whom you used to meet everyday…five days is quite a long time when it comes to them.
“I want to come too..”
“What will you do with us anyway?Its just two of us guys and maybe Siddhesh will join us.”
“So call the others na..Even I’ll be able to come then.Call Subhi,Barkha,Dipti,Tabish and all the others too…”
“Fine,I guess we’ll all be able to meet that way.”
That was Sneha..So now it was decided..all of us were going..it was gonna be fun.
“Why don’t we go after Tanuj comes?”
“He doesn’t like such stuff..”
“How can you assume such things?”
“Because I know..”
That was Sneha again…
One of our friends was coming back from
this diwali..And we had planned to go three days before his arrival..
“I have got classes from 7.30 to 12.00…”
“I have got classes from 4.30”
“So now we cant go?”
“We can go in the morning na,,”
“Yeah right…you thought I had classes till 12 at night?”
This was with Nikhil the previous day
“I wanted to come….”
“I know, but we cant do anything na..”
I got up early the next day (today).. I had my maths classes and I didn’t want to get late…there were two batches that day…I didn’t want to be packed in like some cattle so I had to go early.
(Ten minutes later)
“Aaj class nahin hain..”(“no class today”)
And unlike the other guys I wasn’t abusing the classes people for having made me get up early…I was happy that now I’d be able to go…
(Ten minutes later at 7.45)
No one picks up.
“Where were you…sleeping?”
“Fine get ready,we gotto leave..Classes got cancelled..we can go to Churchgate now..”
“Yeah that’s good….”
“Call Sneha and Nilay tell them to get ready..I ll tell the others…We leave in an hour”
“Yeah…why?How long do you take to take a bath anyway?”
Sneha and Subhashree couldn’t come because there weren’t many girls,Nirali had her midterms so basically I helped her by waking her up and asking her to get ready—she didn’t come though-
Nilay had classes,Nikhil wasn’t allowed to go, Samir was busy as usual,Tabish for once was ready…but then,there was no one else
Dipti and Barkha normally needed a weeks notice whenever we planned to go out so they were out of question…
Ultimately it was just me and Siddhesh…and we would have gone too…only I thought it would be wise to call enquiry to ask whether the museum and art gallery were open…..It was Election Day after all…
“MTNLchya 197 enquiry madhye aaple swagat aahe.”
“Welcome to MTNL 197 enquiry”
“Naahin..Aaj Election aahe naa…” (“No,since its election day.”)
I felt like a huge balloon burst inside me…I had really wanted to go from a long time
“You can spend time alone at home too..”
“Yeah,I guess you re right…I ll read some books today or go online….”
So here I am….
Take my word….excessive planning is bad…all the more when you have got such a huge group as mine..
Though you should take care to plan things like which day to go on…Unlike me…we decided to go on the wrong day and the enquiry struck me at the last moment…..